Being Fake slingshot effect
by phil on Thursday Oct 9, 2003 3:35 PM
being fake, self-programming
For me, when I try to curb a natural, yet undesireable personality trait, I find that I eventually feel the urge to sling-shot back. I.e. if I go on a trip where I focus on "being a good listener" or whatever, I find myself then compensating by talking profusely when the self-control wears off. On the one hand, this is annonying because it prevents me from changing myself. On the other hand, though, it is a good defense mechanism, in that it prevents me from abusing self-control for potential purposes of social desparation. i.e. I later find out sometimes, that there are very good reasons why I act like a jerk or become ultra-negative in certain situations... such as my body subconsciously barring me from bad relationships, etc.
A positive note I picked up from The Owner's Manual for the Brain, is the suggestion that every personality combination (whether including bad or good traits) is in someway there because natural selection found it expedient..
Grasping this idea is a segue for my self-acceptance, albeit odd. Or I'm just getting older...
So chalk up another point for being natural!
john shapiro said on October 13, 2003 3:00 PM: