Problems with Control

by phil on Saturday Oct 4, 2003 11:41 AM
control

The more you intend to control, the more you have to reveal, and when it comes to interpersonal relationships, the more you find the following: unintended power dynamics, sexual tensions, stereotypes, biases, delicate balancing of insecurities, whipping-boy to alpha male supports, mobism, conformity, racial urges, tradition, hyperego and other processes are what keep these social supports alive. And somehow, the demystification is ugly because we want to believe that everything is guided by our ideal sense of free will and mutual affection; maybe the disruption and frustration occurs when "reality" creeps in and we find that we're all just using each other for our genes. Maybe the artist should be commended for his willful rejection of the math and his complete embrace for the stars, for in fact he knows he is in the gutter.